I returned from overseas 6 months ago and have bene depressed ever since chopping and changing jobs, looking at houses but not taking them, i was depressed returning as i left a lot behind and returned to ahome that i no longer liked, now it has been 6 months, i just want to be happy how i was with a routine that i like and the amount of friends that i had, but because i have now been depressed for 6 months and not really seen them for 18 months, they ahve all moved on, so the routine that i like and friends and family no longer want to be around me, i dont have any job prospects and i dont want to stay where i am living, had i returned from overseas and not procrastinated going back or just got a job straight away adn settled noone of this would have happened but now i have just completely stuffed everyuthing and i dont see anything that is going to fix it, if i go back overseas it wont be the same, home is not the same, but i dont want to be unhappy foever, what can i do?
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It sounds like you really do need to see your doctor or therapist about something for depression. Your symptoms are normal for a big change like that and it wouldn't hurt to talk to someone. Once youget help for the depression, maybe you can se things alittle clearer, and then making a decision about a job or where to live would come easier. Hope that helps.
I'd go back anyway. You'll make new friends like you did the first time. You seem to be saying you were happier ther so go live your life how you would want it - Happy!
You won't be unhappy forever. You are just going through a rough spot. If you are really down, you might be wise to invest in a counsellor just to help talk through the feelings you are having, and the therapist would tell if you started to develop a more serious depression.
You need to be outgoing, join a group that might interest you, and meet other people. TRUST me you are not the only person who feels alone and uprooted. I hope you find a new job soon, that will do a lot to help. Meanwhile, make your own routine, including taking care of yourself with exercise and eating right.
Know what? Almost everybody experiences some kind of depression every now and then. But, majority of those people would rather concentrate on moving on to enjoy what life has to offer. Pls remember that each second you spend on being unhappy and sulking is wasted and cannot be brought back again. So go out there, start a new day! I'm sure you'll be happy, not tomorrow, not later but today! :)
See depression treatments and resources at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 2, and USE THEM! Take up voluntary work, to give you direction and purposeful activity, which will stop you focusing on yourself and your problems. You can add it to your CV, and mention it to potential employers, and get references from those organisations. When you feel a bit better, throw a party, and invite former friends. See http://www.scotthyoung.com/blog... (/blog/2007/05/21/20) (/20/-procrastination-hacks/).
It IS fixable! You could see a doctor and ask to be prescribed an anti-depressant, like PAXIL, it really works. Or you could do things that help others in need. Helping people in need is the best anti-depressant ever! Do things that will make you feel good about yourself!! Bad times are always temporary. Your best days are still ahead!!
all depression is fixable follow ur gut instict and go with the flow find it where ever you are happy n go there
depression can be treated...but i'm not sure if it can ever be cured.i've suffered from depression and i may again, once you're in that kind of state of sadness it's very hard to get out of as i understand.for some help go to your doctor and see if you can be put on medication.and maybe some therapy.
Whoa! take a deep breath...
Don't dwell on the things you have no control over. You cannot drag friends/family back. If you hate the place you're at, find out how you can move. I think I'm in a similar situation as yours: move home from overseas, delayed getting a job because of my dad's poor health (and my own wasn't tip-top either) and now I can't get a job because I have no recent references and the gap in my resume looks awful (THREE YEARS!). But I try to stay optimistic. There are still things for me to fix up here (after my dad died. Stuff I couldn't attend to because of my own illness, and which my incompetent brother has made a mess of ...), but I remain optimistic. I dream of the places I'd like to be (France!), and do what I can to make it more possible (teaching myself French over the internet).
No, things won't be the same, but new friends, new job -- think of it as a new adventure. Go ahead and move overseas, nothing is holding you back.
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