i was with my girlfriend yesterday and we were swimming in her dads in ground pool. we were playing with a volleyball and i also had a half size basketball in my hand. i started to swim to the other side of the pool and my gf threw the ball at me and hit me in the head. no big deal normally but for some reason i lashed out and threw the basketball at her and hit her in the face. i am normally very calm and collected and if something dumb happens to me like that, i usually just shrug it off and say "whatever, it was an accident." but for some reason i just reacted with anger and i dont know why. i felt really bad and i apologized up a storm and tonite im gonna get her flowers and take her to dinner but i still dont know why i did that. i have been with her for 3 years and never ever wanted to hit her or another woman in my life. i also used to drink heavily and recently stopped about 3 weeks ago and lately i have just been mad about lil stuff that would normally never bother me.
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Nothing really wrong with you. It is perhaps all the pent up frustration of the little things snowballing on you since you've quit drinking. Unfortunately your girlfriend was the 'last straw' when she threw that ball at you.
I do not know the reason why you've quit drinking but it is good you are not drinking HEAVILY any more--not sure what your definition of heavy is there though. Sometimes folks need a drink just to unwind but unfortunately some folks don't know when to quit sometimes and overdo it. Never let alcohol control you. You should control the consumption of it. Please do note I'm not saying you should start drinking again either nor am I criticizing you. Some folks use to try drinking their problems away but unfortunately the problems just don't get resolved and will some day come back and bite you in the a** (been there done that)
I think you need to isolate all those little nagging stuff and DEAL with ONE little thing at a time and resolve it somehow. Solve the frustrations one little piece at a time. Ask yourself:
"How important is this stuff to my life?"--if it not important for work, survival, or involving your family, let it be until you can think of a solution calmly (trying to solve everything at once just gets you more frustrated)
"Who is the person in my life?"--if it is no one you know, then it ain't worth a hill of beans (not even what I am typing here, if you don't like it)
I can go on and on but I won't. Somethings in life happen for a reason, some don't. We all have to learn to see it for what it is and figure out where it fits in your life--important? somewhat important? or not at all?
Take care.
It is probably the fact that you have stopped drinking. Talk to friends and family. Good Luck
wow that sounds strange have u seen a doctor?
i don鈥檛 know but it seems like ur going through a lot of stuff
and u just can鈥檛 deal with ur emotions ..
It depends on what age you are, I mean if you're like 13-18 I can understand it has to do with puberty and mood swings, but since you can drink, i'm guessing your body was too used to drinking and can't deal with not drinking.
sometime when people recover from an addiction it drives them crazy...hang in their pal it will wear off eventually...if it continues i suggest counseling...its not just for crazy people
and for yur dreams, itz problaby related to your drinking path or some peole have premonitions in their dreams of whats gonna happen later in life.not to scare you or anything
APOLOGIZE APOLOGIZE APOLOGIZE. I don't mean to be rude, but I believe she has every right to walk away from you for hitting her once, but lets hope you guys are happy and can work things out.I'm just saying if she is angry I hope you understand why and are prepared in case the worst happens. Be prepared to talk to her and let her know how you are feeling, be vulnerable so she understands why you acted the way you did. Even offer her time to think if you guys need that.
Now, it seems like you should find a doctor to talk to, or even a phone counselor. I'm not sure if there are AA meetings you can go to near you but that might be a great option too. Keep in mind those are all non committal things so you can just utilize the services as long as you'd like. If you can't find alcohol related help maybe you can try to call that cigarette hotline that is free to get smokers to quit. Perhaps you can lie, say you quit 3 weeks ago and now are having bouts of anger.Or maybe see if the local hospital clinic has someone to talk to.
Also, congratulations for quitting. That is a big important step! 3 weeks is already a long time, so now that you've passed this, going longer shouldn't be trouble at all. Good Luck to you!
That's from the alcohol withdrawal. Alcohol can mess people up for a long time, even after they quit. However, things will get better as time goes on. Good for you for quitting.
Only you know where this anger is coming from do whatever you think you need to do to figure it out, but stay away from those that would push drugs on you drugs are no good if they are called legal or illegal it will only increase your problems and you are trying to quit being hooked on stuff at this point this will only change one problem to another, maybe you need to take a break from her for a while?
Sounds like a big part of the DT's (dementia tremors) from acute reaction to alcohol withdrawal. You prolly need to go to a 7 day rehab right now and just send her the flowers as you can't control your emotions. This can get worse before it gets better and so you need to get treatment and enroll in AA as a backup even if you only go when you get desperate.
Whoa, I hear ya bruh. The dreams are part of the withdrawal and the whole shabang has you on edge. What kind of help have you sought out. A.A. can help. There is also a Christian version of that called Overcomers in Christ. A Psychiatrist who specializes in substance abuse is also a pretty good bet. You need to realize that whatever you do you will only get out of it what you put in. Time may make it easier but that won't keep you from losing it if you don't address whatever caused you to go off the deep end in the first place. My guess is that drinking only numbed the feelings of anger that were there all along and now that you can 'feel' again you don't know how to deal. No shame in admitting it got the best of you just so long as you don't just ignore it and wish it goes away.
The anger is from quitting the alcohol so just try to think logically in situations like that it will go away, right now your body is going through changes and is actually normal to get angry.
The dreams are normal as well they are metaphoric and are basically meaning that you are going through change especially if you have cut off old friends. So don't worry these are all part of a normal transition state. Definitely take your gf out and all that I think she will understand.
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