I am prone to quick changes in mood and at times irritability (lack of patience). However, most of the time I am in a very good mood and would describe myself as a happy person with a lot in life to be thankful for. I really don't understand why suddenly out of the blue I can get a bad (sad feel like crying) mood but usually snap out of it within a day or less. Can anyone please help me with this?
Answer:
I can be impatient. I like getting things done, and I'm not going to like anything that gets in the way. But where it goes from there depends on what else is going on with me. If I'm not trying to do too much, I can see the reason for any delay and accept it. If not, it's often because I'm not over being angry about something earlier that didn't go well. It's easy to make customer service people scapegoats for whom you're really angry with.
There are at least two schools of thoughts on how to be happy. One is to pretend you're happy, believing that anger, sadness, and fear are bad things that you should refuse to feel. I've never liked that. I want to let those challenging emotions work themselves through. Those who do that can find that fear can become prudence, anger can become determination, and sadness can become a basis for empathy. They can become healthy emotions when people learn to see them realistically.
That's hard to do on one's own. Our culture has all kinds of mixed messages and unhealthy messages about emotions, including the one that says you should be in charge of your emotions, not the other way around. If you really want healthy emotions, I think letting a psychologist help you is essential.
Mood Control
Bad moods damage your motivation to succeed in training or competition. They make you more prone to negative thinking, and cause distraction, often as you trigger bad moods in other people. Bad moods emerge as bad temper, unhappiness, lethargy and sluggishness.
If you are in a good mood, then even dull training can be enjoyable.
Your mood is completely under your control - bad moods are an indulgence you cannot afford. You can improve your mood in the following ways:
Through positive thinking and suggestion - say to yourself 'I feel good' or 'I am going to move faster' or 'I can feel energy pouring into my limbs'. This really does help.
By treating each element of a performance individually - when you make a mistake, refocus and concentrate on the next separate element of the performance. Treating a performance in this way ensures that a bad move or a missed shot does not effect following moves or shots.
By using imagery - imagine a beautiful scene or a time when you were performing very well and feeling good. Alternatively, imagine feeling good directly.
By reviewing your goals to remotivate yourself.
By smiling! - Forcing a smile onto your face for more than just a few seconds always seems to lift a bad mood. Try it - it really does work!
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