I don't know how to tell people how I feel. I cut myself to keep it in. and I'm talking to a counselor, and taking Prozac. but I resist therapy. My counselor is really nice and there is no way I would/could change. but what can I do differently to help me open up to her, I'm afraid that if I tell her I cut, she will tell my parents. or make me tell my parents. I don't want to give up cutting yet. but how can I open up. tell how I am feeling. talk to her about the things that make me depressed.
Answer:
It's hard to start giving up your secrets to a therapist. But, once you give up a little secret, find out the therapist does not judge you, the rest will come much more easily. Yes, you are being (in a seriously bad way) in control of yourself. You are not being honest with your therapist, and you are cutting yourself....maybe, because you feel it is the ONLY power you have over yourself, right now? TELL your therapist how you feel! SEriously, the cutting is not a power that will help you in any way. It is very dangerous. Take the power of knowing that your therapist will not be telling your secrets....use that power of confidenciality...you have a person who will listen to you, help you, and you can trust this person. Trust........it... a hard thing to do. Still, I really want you to trust the therapist, and to stop cutting. Please, just a little trust to the therapist...see how that goes.
Talk in hypothetical cases; tell her you know a friend that cuts and ask her if she would report that to her parents if she was the one in therapy.
talk to her and ask her politely not to tell anything you tell her to your parents. listen to your heart and speak it out!!
Therapy only works if you're able to be completely honest with your therapist. My advice would be to tell her and let her know that you do not want your parents to know. She will be able to help you come up with other coping skills that are healthier as well.
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